How to Get to Know That Special Person More Intimately
How well do you know the girl you’re dating before you can DTR, or Define the Relationship?
Have you gotten past physical appearances and first impressions? And once you’ve gotten over her amazing looks and irresistible charm, will you like what you see?
Relationships come in stages. You can’t expect your relationship to turn out like a finished product from the get-go. What you have may be special. You’re feeling something good about it, but don’t let your feelings get ahead of you.
But you can’t rush getting to know someone on a deeper level. That takes both time and patience. You don’t want to end up suffocating her, making her turn the other direction.
Take a patient and balanced approach.
Deepen your relationship without coming off as in a rush or domineering through these easy-to-remember measures:
Show that you’re emotionally invested
Give her your full attention.
When you take an interest in your date, it raises her confidence and self-esteem. It also makes her feel more important, valued, and worthwhile.
Here are some ways to show your interest in her:
- Looking in her eyes
- Be curious about her
- Acknowledging her
- Respecting her
By doing these things, you’re telling her that you’re worth her best efforts as well.
Open up to your special someone
Instead of keeping things shallow and on a surface level, take the initiative by opening yourself up to her.
You can start by telling personal stories that you feel comfortable sharing. Being able to open up allows you to feel connected with her and be vulnerable.
Create a safe space for her to open up to you. Make sure she knows that she can trust you and assure her that you will never betray her confidence in you.
Communicate effectively with your special someone
Communication plays a bigger role in creating and maintaining relationships.
Make an effort to make your communication effective, empathetic, and productive.
Begin by doing these simple acts:
- Ask open-ended questions
- Be an engaged listener
- Be mindful of nonverbal cues
- Empathize with her
- Don’t get distracted by your phone and your surroundings
Put effort into making plans for your dates
Use what you know about her to plan your dates. Make your dates about her first, you second.
She will then realize how invested you are in her and how much you want her to be in your life. and want her to be part of your life.
Putting in effort is the most important ingredient to a happy and healthy relationship. If you want your relationship to flourish, make an effort. Or else, it’s easy for you to lose interest in each other.
A relationship grows the deeper you get to know each other.
It would take a lifetime to know a person better but it pays to know her a little more just before you agree to be together.
Take a chill pill and slow down a bit. It is better to have a proper and solid foundation of friendship before you go to the next level.
